And he’s so thoughtful – he remembers what kind of juice I like and always buys my favorite snacks and breakfast for when I come over. Western women dating Asian men does happen but it's definitely not going to become mainstream anytime soon.Life isn't like The Lover, a film made in the early 90's, where a beautiful French girl goes to Indonesia and has a torrid, steamy affair with an uber-hot, wealthy Chinese man. Like anything, dating is a personal choice; but personally, I still believe that the vast majority of Chinese guys are simply not hot.My first partner kidnapped my oldest child and took him overseas without my knowledge or consent, he was 2 weeks short of turning one and I never saw him until after his second birthday.My second partner is so reliant on her mother and insists her idiotic mater stays with us allowing her to interfere with the raising of our sons detrimentally under the ruse of being here to help baby sit. I come home to find my 2yr old son running around with kitchen knives and scissors under her supervision while she shakes my infant son violently to sleep.It must be normal to shake babies to sleep in China.Neither my ex nor my current partner would stand up to their parents in the cause of reason.You see it all the time; foreign men of every color with Chinese girls.Chinese girls throw themselves at Western men and even the ones that don't are very open to dating a Western man.
Unless you are willing to completely submit, and kowtow to a Chinese woman you will always be at odds and it is likely the relationship won't last.One good friend of mine, let’s call her Sophie, has been working in China for four years.On the subject of dating, she told me "after 4 years without a relationship, I still don’t want a Chinese guy".Back then, the building was still under construction.The guy tricked them into letting us onto the 97 So are local guys really a lost cause? I met him back in October, and it took me ages to pluck up the courage to speak to him.