I don't think someone has to be widowed or understand the widow experience to be able to give that to a widowed person.I think more people out there than we even realize have the capacity to give such love.
I also have another unique vantage point in that I lost my mother at roughly the same age that she has lost hers. I am always wondering what her experience of losing her mom will be like.And I think when you're a healthy person who really loves someone... It becomes effortless and automatic to love the one they lost. From the other side of this equation – spending the past five months exploring what it means to love a widowed person myself – this is some of what I have learned.And I believe this to have far less to do with my being widowed and far more to do with my ability to love whole-heartedly – the way that Mike deserves to be loved.Celebrating Megan's birthday and their wedding anniversary...for the first time without her living, and spreading her ashes. To wake up on the day he married such a beautiful, courageous woman ten years ago, without her here.